If you have got this far - sex might be worrying you! These days sex is everywhere.
Even if sex becomes a little bit wobbly and things aren’t going according to plan, quite quickly it can impact on your self esteem. We live in a sexualised age.
You can probably remember when you took it for granted that you could have sex when you wanted. The moment popped up and things all seemed to work just fine.
Men: More recently you may have noticed it is tricky to maintain an erection or at the other extreme things are all over in seconds or you might just find the whole thing really lacklustre and pretty dull.
Women: You may find the process painful where before it was enjoyable or you ‘just don’t feel like it right now’...and this has been happening for a while.
Some sexual difficulties which do not appear to have any medical explanation are termed psychosexual. You may have sought the advice of a medical doctor and the results show all is working normally. Difficulties in this arena can be difficult to pin down.
Long term sexual performance troubles can be very debilitating, often affecting relationships and eventually you may start to exclude yourself from sexual situations.
Men may experience premature ejaculation and erection problems. Women may experience the inability to orgasm (anorgasmia), frigidity or painful muscle contractions before or during sex.
In short psychosexual disorders are ones that cause anxiety before or during sex and have no traceable organic cause. They interfere with your ability to perform within a range that suits you or your sexual partner.
The inability to conceive may also be an issue. Sometimes medical investigations show that all physiological functions are normal. This often leads to further frustrations and stress.
How Hypnotherapy helps
This is sensitive work so naturally our work is done in complete confidence. It can be embarrassing and difficult so we usually embark gently at a pace that suits you. Please bear in mind that however awkward you may feel talking about this – I have worked with such issues many times before.
Lots of psychosexual disorders are treatable in the same way as performance anxiety - creating a positive internal state that begins to bring relief and confidence.
I employ behavioural interventions, some counselling techniques and a thorough knowledge of how stress affects this particular complaint. Once we have negotiated some interventions, level of stress are immediately reduced. Combining this with positive images, self talk and gradually building confidence you will begin to see a shift.
Clinical hypnotherapy is a viable and effective intervention for sexual complaints. Clinical Hypnotherapy is a powerful, safe and fast tool in the right hands. Look at How Hypnotherapy Works for a jargon free explanation of this process.