We do a lot! Repeat; we do a lot. If you think about all the things you do in a day – I mean everything.
It’s actually quite amazing how much you get done. You probably manage your pressure well, most of the time.
A useful way to think about this is that you have a big pot of life simmering away on a stove. Most of the time it stays under control but when the heat gets turned up – as it inevitably does – it can start to boil over. If this goes on for long enough things rarely get the chance to calm down.
It is worth mentioning here that nil pressure for some people can be humdrum and downright dull. Maximum pressure will cause different problems. At this point maintaining a family or relationship, travelling, maintaining a supportive diet, exercise and all the things that support you can go out of the window.
We all have really different thresholds for pressure and stress. Some creative processes require you to ‘attend’ when the moment calls – it cannot be forced - I often hear this about writing. To the contrary certain professions prerequisites are speed and precision. Certain things we may have little control over – when baby needs feeding, baby needs feeding!
Into this mix we throw the bigger events of life: a promotion at work, bereavement, family difficulties, moving house and any serious loss that turns the heat up. Even this you can manage from time to time. You have reserves that can cope with temporary periods of ‘overdrive’.
Providing you have a period where the heat is metaphorically reduced by exercise, supportive eating, relaxation, down-time, holidays, time with loved ones, appropriate sleep and so on, the pot will once again return to a steady simmer. Things can become a problem for you if your pot is continually boiling over and you cannot put support in place. You could start to feel like you are out of control. Continual overdrive can be catastrophic.